How to Choose Your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

Choosing your bridesmaids and groomsmen is an emotional moment — and not always an easy one. These are the people who will accompany you through the planning process and stand by your side on one of the most meaningful days of your life. Here are a few tips to help you make the right decision.

1. Think About Who Truly Supports You
Your wedding party should consist of people who will genuinely be there for you — emotionally, practically, and throughout the planning journey.

Ask yourself:

  • Who has supported me in important moments of my life?
  • Who calms me when I’m stressed?
  • Who will make my wedding day better simply by being there?

It's not about obligation — it’s about connection.

2. Choose People Who Add Positivity to Your Life
On your wedding day, you’ll feel excited, nervous, joyful, emotional — everything at once.

Surround yourself with people who:

  • lift you up
  • bring positive energy
  • are easygoing
    make you feel safe and loved

Avoid anyone who often adds drama or stress.

3. There Are No Rules About Numbers
The size of your wedding party is entirely up to you.

You can choose:

  • many bridesmaids/groomsmen,
  • just one each,
  • or none at all.

Make the decision that feels right for you — not the one that follows tradition.

4. Do Not Choose Out of Obligation
You do not have to choose someone just because:

  • you were in their wedding party,
  • they expect it,
  • family pressure is involved,
  • you’ve known them the longest.

A wedding party is about the present — not about old expectations.

5. Talk About Responsibilities
Some couples expect a lot, others expect almost nothing — but expectations should be communicated clearly.

Consider:

  • Do you want help with planning?
  • Should they organise the bachelor/bachelorette party?
  • Do they need to attend fittings, rehearsals, etc.?
  • How involved should they be on the wedding day?

Clear communication prevents misunderstandings.

6. Choose Together as a Couple
While each partner may choose their own attendants, the overall decision should feel balanced and comfortable for both of you.

7. Trust Your Instinct
In the end, your intuition knows best. Choose the people who make your heart feel calm and happy — that’s who belongs by your side.

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