Writing Your Wedding Vows

I often like to reference our surreal yet beloved Hollywood movies, where the groom suddenly decides at the very last minute what to write in his vows — a true nightmare!
And yet… many couples know the feeling: What should I write? How long should it be? To make writing your vows easier, I’ve put together a few helpful tips for you.


1. The Perfect Length
Wedding vows are promises you speak to each other during the ceremony — typically after the “I do” and before the ring exchange.

Many people think:
“The longer, the better.”
But actually, the opposite is true.
Long doesn’t automatically mean meaningful — most guests (and even your partner!) won’t remember long speeches afterward.

Also, your wedding day follows a timeline, so it’s important not to exceed the allocated time.

The ideal length for vows:
- 1–2 minutes
Short, emotional, and unforgettable.

2. What Should You Say in Your Vows?
This part is entirely personal — but at its core, the vow is a promise.

Think about:

  • What do I truly feel for my partner?
  • What exactly do I love about them?
  • Why do I want to marry this person?
  • What future do we envision together?
  • What are our next goals as a couple?
  • What connects us so deeply?
  • What do I appreciate about them the most?

Reflecting on these questions helps you gather your thoughts and write heartfelt words.

3. Reading or Speaking Freely?
It’s completely up to you whether you:

  • read your vows from a small card, or
  • speak them freely during the ceremony.

If you choose to speak without reading, make sure to practice — and not just once.

Tips:

  • write your vows early
  • practice whenever you have a quiet moment
  • time yourself to stay within 1–2 minutes

This helps you feel confident and calm during the big moment.

Writing your vows is one of the most emotional and intimate parts of your wedding ceremony.

Take your time, express your feelings honestly, and remember:
There is no right or wrong — only your truth.

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